Like our view of the world when wearing a wrong set of glasses, sometimes we see each other through unhelpful or imperfect understandings:

"He just wants to be mean to me, that's why he's grumpy." When in reality he's overwhelmed at work and he frees up mental space by reducing connection to people...

Ever been faced with a behavior, character issue, or problem in your spouse that bugs you? We're probably all too familiar with the dynamic. You maybe hide your distaste and kinda inwardly stew about it, or you subtly nag, or you outright criticize.

What if, however, there's a better way? Try this:...