Like our view of the world when wearing a wrong set of glasses, sometimes we see each other through unhelpful or imperfect understandings:

"He just wants to be mean to me, that's why he's grumpy." When in reality he's overwhelmed at work and he frees up mental space by reducing connection to people...

In a moment of impasse in a relationship, like in an argument that threatens to ruin an evening, it's easy to be inflamed with what you want, and to feel totally justified in it.

Been there?!

Maybe it's respect, or for your partner to see things your way, or for you to be seen as right, or for you...