Like our view of the world when wearing a wrong set of glasses, sometimes we see each other through unhelpful or imperfect understandings:

"He just wants to be mean to me, that's why he's grumpy." When in reality he's overwhelmed at work and he frees up mental space by reducing connection to people...

"I just can't stand it when he/she does..."

"I love my spouse, but when he/she..."

"Everything goes good until he/she..."

"I just really wish he/she would change the way..."

These are the refrains of marriage partners caught in a trap - the trap of trying, or wanting, to change their spouse in s...

Ever been faced with a behavior, character issue, or problem in your spouse that bugs you? We're probably all too familiar with the dynamic. You maybe hide your distaste and kinda inwardly stew about it, or you subtly nag, or you outright criticize.

What if, however, there's a better way? Try this:...

When there's increased stress in one area of your spouse's life, it inevitably leaks into the others. Hence, here you are living your life, and suddenly (or so it appears) there's stress on your relationship.

Things are on edge. You may feel like you're tiptoeing around, or maybe trying in vain to ...